New Resolutions for 2015?

20 Resolutions Everyone Should Make

t’s time for New Year’s resolutions. Most of us have a love-hate relationship with this once-a-year list. Maybe the same few goals keep popping up year after year, or maybe you throw it all out the window and say screw the list. But no matter how you feel about them, setting intentions as the New Year approaches is a smart idea for a balanced life.

There’s a reason traditional resolutions don’t stick. Things like losing weight, ending a nail-biting habit, or paying off debt are all good goals. But it can be hard to put your heart into them.

If you really want to reach new heights, consider writing your goals with more heart and intention. Focus on the feelings you want to feel in the New Year and the big picture.

Instead of writing down “lose weight” or “hit my goal weight,” make a resolution to feel good in your skin and fall in love with your body. This empowers you from within, and you’ll create goals with your heart. When your heart is your compass, you’re more enthusiastic and focused.

If you want to feel more alive and present in your life, consider revising your New Year’s resolution list. Here are 20 things to consider:

1. Release what no longer serves you.

2. Live less out of habit and focus on intent.

3. Raise your standards.

4. Look for the good in others instead of focusing on the bad.

5. Be OK with not being OK.

6. Look in the mirror and like what you see.

7. Be kind to yourself when you’re learning something new.

8. Be OK with not knowing. Learn to love the journey.

9. Stop apologizing.

10. Let love guide you.

11. Stop rushing things that need time to grow.

12. Know the difference between giving up and knowing when you’ve had enough. Let enough be enough.

13. Travel to that place you keep thinking about. It’s in your heart for a reason.

14. Trust yourself more.

15. Let go of who you think you are so you become who you want to be.

16. Be thankful for today.

17. Don’t worry about how your life looks. Instead, focus on how it feels.

18. Invite your inner child out to play daily.

19. Let yourself be you.

20. Stop trying so hard to get to where you think you should be and see you are exactly where you need to be.


7 Ways to Make 2015 Your Year to Shine!

With the new year upon us, it’s hard not to pick up on the contagious positive energy of making powerful life-changing intentions. New year, new you, right? Perhaps that means: losing weight, getting organized, spending less, saving more, feeling healthy, learning something new, or maybe even helping others, all of which top the list of the most common goals going into the start of a new calendar year. Unfortunately, New Year’s resolutions are notorious for their short-lived journey here on earth. In fact, a study by Stanton University showed that just 8 percent of New Year’s goals ever see themselves into fruition. Moreso, this same study shows that only 25 percent of these goals set will even make it past the first week of the year. Ouch! Now, those are depressing statistic.

Goal-setting can actually be immensely powerful as our beautiful intentions become expressed letting our desires be known to the Universe. But, as the saying goes, “A goal without a plan is just a dream.” Those who succeed in turning their vision into reality go much further. While intention is a powerful first step, it demands additional action steps to actually bring the vision to life.

As an entrepreneur who has spent many new years at the goal-setting table, and who has more recently been the facilitator of helping others bring their own dreams to fruition as a coach and mentor, I’ve seen and experienced first-hand what works and what doesn’t in the world of making dreams happen. And, hence, here are my top seven ways to beat the statistics and make 2015 your year to shine!

  1. Set goals with soul. My own personal belief is that the reason so many New Year’s resolutions become failures is because a lot of people are just making them because they’re “supposed” to. It’s like saying, “Okay, another new year is upon us, I guess I should throw some goals out there.” But, you’re not going to get very far with that mindset. Instead, dive in a little deeper and get into the “why” behind the “what.” So, instead of saying “I want to lose weight,” which is kind of lacking in the soul department, how about really digging in and saying, “I want to lose weight because I’m tired of feeling like crap. And, I want to be alive and healthy to see my children graduate high school and to see my grandchildren be born, etc.” Or, maybe your goals in financial in nature. Making more money is just scratching the surface of things, but dig in deeper and consider what that financial freedom would feel like for you? Maybe you want to provide a certain life for your children or start a foundation that gives back to a cause that is super important to you. Now, that has some grit to it as it digs deeper into the heart and touches on emotion which equals staying power.
  2. Hash out the details. Beyond writing the goal down, it’s important to get into the actual strategy of achieving them. Imagine finally reaching the finish line and consider all of the steps that would have needed to be taken to get there. If we were to use the weight loss goal again as an example (it is one of the most popular new year’s goal, after all), we could agree that eating well and exercising are necessary to achieve that particular goal. However, the fine details of what that actually looks like can vary greatly from person to person. An individual strategy would need to get into the specific dates and times workouts would take place and what other commitments might need to be juggled to make it happen. The strategy would also address everything else from what types of food to incorporate into the meal planning, to when to do the shopping, and what days to actually do the cooking. Hashing out these details and then syncing them into your daily life by actually scheduling them on your calendar will make a night and day difference between goals that are soon forgotten and your wildest dreams actually coming true. This same line of thinking can be used for business, relationship, spiritual, and any other type of goals your heart desires.
  3. Tell the world (or at least anybody that will listen). The more we talk about our goals and dreams, they more real they feel and the better the chances of them coming to life. Express them not only in your own dream journals, but to friends and family, on social media, and within your networking groups, this is both the power of intention and law of attraction in action. What we focus on, grows. So, don’t keep your dreams in the dark. Bring them into the light and keep them there instead of letting them fade away back into the shadows. Water and nurture them like the beautiful little seeds that they are and help give them every chance to grow. And, while you’re shouting from the rooftops, don’t be afraid to also ask for help, guidance and support along the way. The more two way conversations you have around your desires, the more supported you will feel and the more they will manifest.
  4. Build in some accountability. Human beings are wired for connection. Therefore, having some sort of built-in accountability works so much better than trying to go at it alone. When we partner up, hire a coach, or join a group of like-minded folks, we substantially increase our chances of making things happen. Having a network in place to share ideas with, be supported by, and be held accountable to gives us the courage and inspiration to carry on and the motivation to actually get done what we said we would. (Nobody wants to report to their accountability partners that they haven’t gotten anything done, right?) Whether you get friends and family to help keep tabs on your progress or join a professional group of some sort, having a team to be accountable to is an invaluable gift to help you keep up with your goals.
  5. Be flexible and easy, like a tree that bends and sways with the wind. A mentor of mine once gave a beautiful analogy that I will never forget She said to hold on to your vision ever so gently, like a baby chick. Imagine holding this soft, fuzzy, sweet and delicate little creature in your hand. You want to do so gently and with love. What would happen to that adorable little chick if you squeezed too tightly? Not a pretty picture. So, why is it that we often squeeze the life right out of our own dreams? We tend to hold on to our vision too tightly. In our own minds, we want things to play out in an exact and precise way, but reality is this rarely happens. Instead, we must remember that we are powerful co-creators in the Universe (emphasis on the “co”). Sometimes life has other plans in mind. We need to learn to go with the flow and be willing to re-write the vision as life and circumstances change for us. Being open to the synchronicity in your life and taking subtle guidance from the Universe plays a powerful part in bringing your dreams to life.
  6. De-Clutter. Energy is a powerful thing that exists everywhere and in everything. Did you know the flow of energy can be blocked when our lives are cluttered? This could be in the form of a literal state (e.g., a messy house or desk), or perhaps in a more abstract form such as messy financials or relationships. Or, maybe we are just holding on to some past junk that is making it difficult to move forward. No matter how much vision-writing, goal-setting, and accountability we have in place, if our lives are in messy shambles, we must do some spring cleaning before we can truly tap into our infinite potential. Think about some ways you can clean up your own energy space. In what areas of your life can you de-clutter and organize? What are some loose ends that can be tied up? Where are you feeling “messy” and/or incomplete. Clean up, organize, let go, feel light, and allow energy to flow positively and freely.
  7. Listen to your soul. Deep in our hearts and soul, there is a seed planted. It’s our passion and life purpose gently trying to manifest itself in all that we do. It is up to each of us to in tune to this divine truth. Connecting with our soul is a mission all in of itself. It takes a combination of going within, experiencing stillness, cultivating mindfulness, and connecting with the signs from the Universe as they play out around us. Once we get a glimpse of this, we must tune out anyone or anything that tries to sway us away. Being true to ourselves in a world that is constantly trying to change us is one of the most difficult challenges any of us will face in our lifetime. So, once we start to get those glimpses into what lights us up, what we’re here for, how we want to feel and to BE in this world, we must guard them carefully and not let the rest of the world take these truths away.


The psychology behind New Year’s resolutions that actually stick

According to a Marist Poll, 44% of us will make a resolution for 2015. Like previous years, we will once again resolve to lose weight, get organized, save more money, and enjoy life to the fullest.

For real, this time.

But have you ever wondered why new year’s resolutions fail despite your best intentions?

The pattern is dismally familiar. You promise yourself that “I am going to lose weight next year.” You eat nutritiously for a few days and start going to the gym. Then, in a moment of weakness, you binge on leftover cake and chocolate-chip cookies, feel bad about your lack of willpower, slip back into old habits and give up.

Now, thanks to advances in brain science and behavioral research on motivation and habits, experts understand these frustrating patterns of our behavior better than ever before. By putting their insights to work, you can build more willpower and achieve more of your goals over time.

So what does science tell us about goals, motivation and how to stay on track?

First, writing down your goals is critical if you want to accomplish them. Then comes the harder parts:

Tip #1: Connect your goals to something personally meaningful to you.

You are more likely to stay on track with goals when they’re important, interesting or enjoyable for you. This happens when you connect your goals to your deepest values and aspirations.

Why is it really important for you to lose weight? Is it because it improves your feelings of self-worth and gives you energy to do other things; or is it because it allows you to be more active and makes you feel more attractive? Whatever it is, connecting your goals to these personal and emotional benefits are important in achieving them.

Tip #2: Break your goals into smaller milestones

Longer-term goals are never achieved in one go. You need to break longer term goals into smaller tasks or milestones. Accomplishing these milestones will give you a clear sense of progress, let you celebrate small wins and keep you motivated.

Tip #3: Make your milestones immediate and specific

Remember the motivation you have just before a deadline? Milestones should aim to create a similar sense of urgency in you by making them as immediate and specific as possible. Getting started is one of the hardest things in accomplishing a goal. Therefore, the most important task to make immediate is the first. “Lose on pound this week” is good but “Consume 2,000 calories or less today” may be even better.

Goal example: “Lose 15 pounds by June”

Milestone example: “Lose one pound this week”

Tip #4: Let others know about your specific goals

Letting your friends, family or co-workers know about your goals make it more likely that you will succeed. Research shows that this works only when your goals are verifiable. “Write more” is vague but “Write 500 words every week” is verifiable. No one likes to be seen as weak-willed so committing to goals in front of others increases your motivation to achieve them.

Tip #5: Make a “Fresh Start” in case of setbacks

Wharton business school professor Katherine Milkman and her colleagues have done research on the role timing of resolutions plays in building up motivation and overcoming inertia. They have labeled it the “fresh start effect.”

According to the University of Scranton Journal of Clinical Psychology, people who explicitly make resolutions are 10 times more likely to attain their goals than people who don’t explicitly make them.

So go ahead. Make a fresh start and commit to a new year resolution. Make allowances in your mind that failure and setbacks can occur but that you can always start over—and resolve to succeed.


How to Set Intentions on New Year’s Eve to Guarantee a Phenomenal Year Ahead

Preparation is key to every victory in life.

Psychological, emotional and energetic preparing is what separates those that succeed from those that want.

When I began intentionally closing the year, my life felt more deliberate and I achieved so many goals I’ve had for years!

I got pregnant effortlessly, had an amazing twin home birth, traveled to places I’ve always wanted to see, my business soared and abundance flowed in, felt more passionately in love with my husband, and so much more!

So I invite you to set yourself up to thrive in 2015 by doing a short yet potent New Year’s Eve Release & Intend Ceremony that will help you achieve what you desire.

The eve of the last day of the year has long been recognized as an auspicious and sacred time to:

  • reflect and celebrate the year that has passed
  • release thoughts and beliefs that are no longer serving you
  • set clear intentions for the year ahead
  • invite the powerful energy of attraction to manifest your desires

In years past, I have held NY Eve Ceremonies at my home and all of the participants raved about how incredible it was to step into the new year with so much clarity, hope and inspiration!

This year I’m hosting a free virtual Release & Intend ceremony on 12/28, but if you’d rather create your own end-of-the-year ritual (alone or with friends), here are some ideas to guide you.

Set aside at least 30 minutes and choose the elements out of the suggestions below that resonate with you. Most importantly, remember to make this ceremony fun and exciting!


You don’t have to do the NY Eve ceremony on the 31st of December. Select a day and time when you (and whoever you invite) will enjoy focusing on setting intentions without interruptions.

When deciding on location, begin with connecting with what a ceremony means to you and what kind of an environment is conducive for feeling united in your heart, mind and soul.

For me, it could mean any of the following:

  • lighting a candle with the intention of illuminating the vision for your next year
  • burning some incense or sage to clear the space
  • creating an altar with things that hold personal meaning such as photographs, art, and sacred objects
  • having a journal and pen ready and maybe even getting a whole collection of art supplies
  • gathering tarot cards or any other tools for connecting with inner wisdom
  • putting on inspiring music
  • dressing up on clothing that makes me feel beautiful, empowered and comfortable


Meditate or just do some deep breathing for a 5-10 minutes. Slow down your heart rate. Feel your body and all the present sensations. Drop-in to Presence.

If you are gathering with friends, I recommend someone guiding everyone in a centering meditation.


If you can read last year’s notes or remember you intentions for this year, it will be useful to reflect and journal your thoughts about them:

  • Have you achieved what you set out to accomplish in the last 12 months?
  • Did you live in alignment with your true intentions and priorities? If not, why?
  • What valuable personal and professional lessons have you learned?

Maybe you feel proud and powerful for making courageous choices. Or maybe you feel angry and frustrated for continuing outdated patterns. All of it is perfectly okay, and I highly suggest removing any internal censoring and having a real heart-to-heart with your journal.

Rest in Napoleon Hill’s wisdom that “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed on an equal or greater benefit.”

(If you can’t remember any intentions for this year, that’s okay, just think about the general things that are important to you and whether you are living in alignment with them.)

If you want to share this with other people who are doing the ceremony with you, share 2-3 lessons you learned from the year.

And if you love fire, then write down 2-3 habits or beliefs that you know you are ready to release and burn them.

As they go up in flames, know that the consciousness that created this world heard your readiness to shift and will now fully support you in your desire!


They can be big achievements or more subtle magic moments. Remember how they felt and what made them so special.

If you are present with others, share some of your highlights in all their juicy glory!

Focusing and reliving the most exciting and exhilarating times of your life is one of the most powerful ways of reprogramming your mindset to keep a success score card, instead of a failure tab!


I recommend writing down one intention for each area of your life. I find these wishes to feel more powerful when I state them in present tense so that I feel like I’m already living my desires. Here are four main areas to focus on:

1. Your Health. The health goal can do with fitness or dietary habits or it can be very general, such as: “I tune into my body wisdom and make choices that nourish and support every cell in radiant health.”

2. Your Wealth. The wealth intention can be a specific desire in your career or finances or it can be something like: “I recognize my innate ability to experience an abundance of money, time and love.”

3. Your Relationships. A relationship goal will be more powerful if you can focus on how YOU want to feel instead of how you would like someone else to change. For example: “I love being in satisfying, loving and nurturing relationships” or “I am attracting the perfect companion for me by being the kind of mate I want to attract.”

4. Your Personal Enrichment. Probably the most important goal out of all 3 because it is what feeds your soul, heart and mind. A great way to explore this topic is to free-write all the things that you would be doing if you had all the money, time and freedom you could want.

Look over what you wrote and think of one goal for the year ahead that lights you up. For instance, you could explore meditation programs or new classes: “I love investing in myself by signing up for {blank} program.”

You can also make it as simple as mine for 2015: “I dance every chance I get and remember my freedom, power and beauty.”


After you have reflected on where you’ve been and where you want to go, it is also useful to pick a theme word or phrase for the year. This focus can be your North Star when making decisions in the coming months.

For example, my focus of 2014 was “I’m Ready.” Anytime I had to make a big decision, I would remind myself that I’m ready and that helped me launch new courses and build a new website, all before I felt I was truly prepared (truthfully, I was never going to feel 100 percent prepared).

The theme can also be a way to recognize when you’ve gotten off balance and help course correct.

My theme for 2015 is the KISS principle — “Keep it simple, silly.”

I have a big sign with those words above my desk and it’s already guiding me to take the path of least resistance and keep things in perspective instead of efforting and trying too hard.

It’s amazing how just a simple phrase can help us remember what our priorities are!


If you are with others, share your intentions and your theme one by one and after each person finished speaking, reflect aloud together: “And so it is!”

And if you did the ceremony on your own, I recommend writing an email to a couple of friends summarizing your desires for 2015 and asking them to help you stay focused in the coming year.

When two or more minds connect with an idea at the same time, the power of the idea becomes greater than the sum of the individual parts.

So share with (supportive) others what you want to develop in your life and you will be amazed how much more fun and easy it will be to journey to your goals.







New Year’s Resolution – Graham Colton:




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